I know I’ve told this story before, but my abusive ex refused to let me take birth control. I was on the pill until he found them in my purse.
I went to the Student Health Center—they were completely unhelpful, choosing to lecture me about the importance of safe sex (recommending condoms) instead of actually listening to my problem.
Then I went to Planned Parenthood. The Nurse Practitioner took one look at my fading bruises and stopped the exam. She called in the doctor. The doctor came in and simply asked me: “Are you ready to leave him?” When I denied that I was being abused, she didn’t argue with me. She just asked me what I needed. I said I need a birth control method that my boyfriend couldn’t detect. She recommended a few options and we decided on Depo.
When I told her that my boyfriend read my emails and listened to my phone messages and was known to follow me, she suggested to do the Depo injections at off hours when the clinic was normally closed. She made a note in my chart and instructed the front desk never to leave messages for me—instead, she programmed her personal cell phone number into my phone under the name “Nora”. She told me she would call me to schedule my appointments; she wouldn’t leave a message, but I should call her back when I was able to.
And that was it. No judgment. No lecture. She walked me to the door and told me to call her day or night if I needed anything. That she lived 5 blocks from campus and would come get me. That I wasn’t alone. That she just wanted me to be safe.
I never called her to come to my rescue. But I have no doubt that she would have come if I had called. She kept me on Depo for a year, giving me those monthly injections in secret, helping me prevent a desperately unwanted pregnancy.
I cannot thank Planned Parenthood enough for the work they do.
Such an amazing story. Thank you for sharing.
Spain may be committing to a stricter path on abortion but French lawmakers are moving to better secure women’s right to the procedure. The new French law does away with language requiring “a situation of distress.” Byline: Hajer Naili
(WOMENSENEWS)— While Spanish women are poised to lose abortion rights, French women are likely to obtain unconditional access to the procedure with a Senate vote on Jan. 24 over whether to approve the amended abortion law that was passed by the National Assembly earlier this week. Until now, the French law guaranteed all “pregnant women whose condition puts her in a situation of distress” the right to terminate her pregnancy. The new text states that a “woman has the right to choose whether or not to continue with her pregnancy.” more…
I mean the Spanish PM is continuing to push through restrictive abortion laws despite some extremely vocal protests. I see a lot about America and American abortion laws come across my dash despite being European, yet I haven’t seen anything about this:
I mean it could just be my dash, but this seems pretty damn important no?
(picture by Phil Tsappas)
Mireia Chavarria and Phil Tsappas report:
Around 40 people gathered outside the Spanish embassy in London on Saturday to protest in solidarity with women in the Spanish State over abortion reforms. The My Belly Is Mine campaign will be running a series of actions over the coming months in the UK aimed at raising political pressure. King’s College Intersectional Feminist Society spoke to the protest, delivering support from their 500 members.
fakesheep-luna asked: Good morning. I just wanted to ask if you knew about the dick move that the Spanish government pulled recently regarding abortion laws. The new anti-abortion bill is the most restrictive in the history of our country's democracy, and has been met by fervent protests by our citizens. But they don't listen to anybody. I was just wondering if you could mention it in one of your posts, because we're trying to spread international awareness on the issue. Thank you.
Sure thing! I’ve heard very brief mention, but I’m certainly not very up-to-date on the issue.
The money spent on the March for Life alone could pay for prenatal care for around 6,600 women, or prenatal vitamins for nearly 250,000.
Wow. Way more than I estimated. How much good could that money have done?
Just a reminder that 73% of people who had abortions said they couldn’t afford a baby. Apparently it’s much more fun to organize mass shaming events (or build multi-million dollar “abortion memorials”) than it is to address the actual problem.
The sad fact is that 41% of New York City babies are aborted.
The chilling fact is that 59.8% of black New York City babies are aborted.
Only FOUR out of TEN black children make it outside of the womb in New York City.
We must stop the industrialized killing of our unborn children. What legacy will you leave?
The sad fact is that each night, more than 21,000 children are homeless in NYC.
The number of people sleeping in shelters has grown 60 percent in the past decade.
Families make up 3/4ths of the homeless population.
53% of the homeless in shelters are black, 32% are Latino.
65.5 percent of high school seniors graduate in NYC.
There are currently 12,568 children in foster care in NYC.
In 2011, there were over 90,000 separate reports of abuse/neglect in NYC.
There are 131 children in secure detention. 112 in non-secure detention.
There are more than 108,000 children in NYC who have a parent that is incarcerated. More than 73 percent of women who are incarcerated have a child under the age of 18.
But go ahead and try to explain how you care about children. Just try to justify how you can ignore all of these children, for a fetus.
Forcing people to stay pregnant does nothing for children. Advocate for better sex education. Fight to help PoC who find themselves with unwanted pregnancies. Don’t ignore the fact that nearly 90 percent of pregnancies that end in abortion for PoC were unplanned, use this information to help them.
My legacy is one of respect, understanding, education, and compassion. You’ll catch on eventually.
That rebuttal is the best thing I’ve read all week.
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